The other day I was texting with my friend Max. Max is a fake name, which I'm using because what Max and I were texting about was porn. And yeah, that's why I'm anonymous here too.
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Many people contact Fight the New Drug to share their personal stories about how porn has affected their life or the life of a loved one. We consider these personal accounts very valuable because, while the science and research is powerful within its own right, personal accounts from real people seem to really hit home about the damage that pornography does to real lives. Recently, we received a disheartening story, sent to us by a thirty-something woman.
I specifically want to watch my long-term partner with another man, but feel it may be pushing his boundaries too far. We had a threesome with one of his close friends, and he was somewhat uncomfortable about it afterwards. They did not interact together at all during this time, but I really would like to watch him do so in the future, not with someone we know, just another man. How do I approach this, and what do I do if I feel like he is not meeting me all the way with my desires, despite me meeting his?
A leading blog on the science of sex, love, and relationships, written by social psychologist Dr. Justin Lehmiller. How often do you come across men who want to watch their wife or girlfriend be with other men sexually?
My wife wants to watch me having sex with another woman. She told me it's optional for her to participate. I am not here to have your opinions whether it's a good thing or not.
At the most basic level, a cuckolding fetish is about a guy getting turned on by his wife or girlfriend sleeping with someone else. Sound like your worst nightmare? Not everyone agrees. In November the Independent reported reported that Google searches for 'cuckolding' hit a peak, and according to Google Trends, the UK is second only to the Netherlands in searches for the kink.
I hate to bring it to your attention, but it does us no good to pretend cultural trends are not what they are. Remember: Those seeking to break down norms of morality will try to normalize depravity one step at a time. Would it?
I constantly hear about the benefits of watching porn with your partnerbut I'm always left with the question, "how do you go about that? Also, how do you deal with the awkwardness that could come up — not to mention the rampant misogyny and unrealistic portrayals of sex in mainstream porn? So, I asked some experts how the heck you go about watching porn as a couple. First, though, don't feel pressured into this activity if you're not totally comfortable with it.